With Mother’s Day only a few days away, many of us are working on the perfect plan to celebrate our moms. Some, however, are trying to forget the holiday altogether, as it can serve as a painful reminder of loss. Regardless of how long ago the loss took place, spending Mother’s Day without mom may never feel easy or any less difficult than the earliest months after her passing. As counterintuitive as it sounds, finding ways to celebrate may be just what you need to make it through the day. Here are some ideas:
- Start a memory book: Think of a favorite memory or story about your mom and write it down. Then, mail the book to one of her friends or family members to fill the next page. Keep it going until the book is full. Months later, you’ll have a beautiful keepsake and testament to how many lives your mother touched.
- Memorialize a favorite recipe of hers: If your mom’s love language was food, it might be fun to sift through her old recipes. If one stands out to you, consider having it transposed onto a serving dish or cutting board. Many places, including local pottery studios and Etsy designers, will do this at an affordable price.
- Buy her flowers: Spend time picking out her favorite flowers and bring them to her gravesite. Carve out a quiet time in your day to sit and chat with her for a while.
- Spend time with others who loved her: Sometimes, the best way to celebrate mom’s memory is to surround yourself with all the people who loved her most. Consider going out for a Mother’s Day brunch with close friends and family.
- Plant a garden or tree in mom’s memory: Spend some time researching flowers that grow best in your area. Then, take a shopping trip to your local gardening center for seeds and supplies. Within a few months, you’ll be able to look out at the beauty of mom’s memory.
- Spend the day with dad: If your dad is still alive, know that he may be struggling alongside you. Consider an outing, just the two of you.
We hope one of these ideas speaks to you and makes your day a little more bearable.
We are sending big hugs and positivity to all who are grieving this Mother’s Day.